What do you do when your partner wants to be polyamorous?
In order to make polyamory more palatable to your reluctant partner, make sure to not only meet their needs now, but also reassure them that their needs will continue to be met in the future. Part of meeting your partner’s needs is refraining from shaming, bullying, or badgering.
When should you tell someone you’re polyamorous?
In general, you should tell someone you’re polyamorous when you feel comfortable with them knowing that you’re polyamorous. This is similar to “coming out” as gay. It’s personal information about your love life that isn’t directly relevant to most people, and might cause them to judge you negatively.
What is polyamory and should you try it?
Polyamory, or consensual non-monogamy, offers people a way to have a very honest, potentially complicated, yet rewardingly open and loving relationship. It also requires a whole lot of introspection, lengthy (and sometimes very difficult) conversations, and the willingness to hurt without demonizing your partner.
How do you deal with a reluctant partner who is polyamorous?
In order to make polyamory more palatable to your reluctant partner, make sure to not only meet their needs now, but also reassure them that their needs will continue to be met in the future. Part of meeting your partner’s needs is refraining from shaming, bullying, or badgering.
Does equality work in a polyamorous relationship?
But of course, if you have had any experience with polyamory, you’d know that equality doesn’t work in practice. In fact, sometimes in polyamorous setups you have what you’d call your primary, secondary and tertiary partners.
Should poly people be excited about monogamy?
If the poly person is poly by sexual orientation, it is no more realistic to expect them to be thrilled with monogamy than it is to expect a lesbian to be excited about being married to a man. Conversely, monogamy can also be a sexual orientation, and mono-leaning folks should not be shamed or badgered into polyamory against their wishes.