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How do you get over an ex who wants to be friends?
Here are seven things to do if your ex wants to stay friends and you don’t, according to experts.
- Tell Them Up Front. Andrew Zaeh for Bustle.
- Honor The Relationship With Empathy. Andrew Zaeh for Bustle.
- Set Up A Timeline.
- Stick With Your Boundaries.
- Find New Places To Hang Out.
- Put It In Writing.
- Don’t Fall For The Tricks.
How do you tell an ex you can’t be friends?
Simply say, “I’m sorry, but I don’t actually want to be friends with you,” or, “No. Being friends isn’t going to work for me.” Don’t make promises or offers for the future. Sure, you might end up being friends again at some point, but there’s no reason to promise that now.
Should you be friends with your ex if you’re still friends?
You can’t get over him if you’re spending time with him! If you don’t have any desire to get back together with your ex, then you definitely shouldn’t be friends with them. Spending so much time with your former boyfriend or girlfriend will only keep them on your mind for longer than necessary.
How can I convince my ex to become a friend?
If possible define in very clear terms what being ‘friends’ means to you and ask your ex if they are okay with it. Encourage them to communicate their boundaries and what they’re comfortable with in terms of contact, space, time spent together, seeing other people, intimacy etc. As the saying goes: a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
Does my ex still have feelings for me?
Your ex still cares for you and may even still have feelings for you but they are acting from a place of guilt. The two of you are not friends and are not going to be friends. Furthermore, being friends is not going to help you rebuild the relationship. Follow through with active no contact. Don’t try to maintain friendship.
Why does my ex-boyfriend want to keep me near me?
Sometimes an ex wants to keep you nearby simply because you two have become so close, and the bond that exists between you is too precious to just throw away. This can happen with relationships that lasted a long time or a short time.