How do I express my problem to my mother?
Here are a few ideas about what to talk about:
- Talk about everyday stuff. Make it a habit to talk to your parent about regular things from your day.
- Talk about a problem you’re going through.
- Talk about something you’re worried about.
- Talk about your feelings.
- Spend time doing things you both enjoy.
How can I express myself to my mom?
Talk About Everyday Stuff — and Do It Every Day
- Find something to chat about each day. You can keep it brief and casual.
- Do things together that you both enjoy. Go for a walk.
- It’s never too late to start. If things feel strained between you and your parent, ease into it.
- Put feelings into words. For example:
How do you calm down your mom when she’s mad at you?
Help your mother identify the feelings causing her anger by naming them. Use statements such as “I understand that you were worried because I didn’t answer my phone.” Stay calm and collected. Take a deep breath and relax before you continue with the conversation.
How did your mother make you stop trying to make friends?
“I was small when my mother made it clear that I couldn’t be friendly with everyone. There were people who would reflect badly on me, on us as a family, and those were the kids I couldn’t invite over. The friends she chose for me were kids I didn’t feel comfortable around, so I stopped trying to make friends.
What happens when a mother is a controlling mother?
A controlling mother denies her daughter the space to make her own choices and to trust her own instincts and thoughts. In adulthood, these daughters are fearful and often incapable of acting on their own behalf, and they end up doing what someone else thinks they ought to.
How does a narcissistic mother treat her children?
The treatment of a child by a narcissistic mother is driven by the mother’s need to be the center of attention at all times. The way she treats her child or children isn’t thought out in any sense, and the truth is that she’s not conscious of what drives her behavior.
What happens to the child of an emotionally unavailable mother?
The child of an emotionally unavailable mother feels the pressure to succeed and get attention, because she needs to try to win her mother’s love, but it emanates from within, in contrast to the daughter of a controlling mother who’s constantly pushed and molded. That controlled daughter lacks the room to act, to think, to feel, and to be herself.