How can I help my sister who always complains about everything?

How can I help my sister who always complains about everything?

(That’s why if you suggest therapy, which can be very effective for help-rejecting complainers, she’ll reject that suggestion, too.) What your sister wants most is to feel heard, so when she complains about her children or friends or boss, the best thing you can do is validate what she’s saying, but in a particular way.

Why does my narcissistic sister treat me so nicely?

With the narcissistic sister there is no empathy, warmth, concern for your welfare, kindness or compassion. Your narcissistic sister pretends that she cares about you but know that when this happens she is treating you “nicely” because she wants something from you, a narcissistic supply that she is after.

Do you remember trying to make up with your sister?

You remember trying to make up with your sister. You started to believe that you were at fault, that something was intrinsically the matter with you. Being innocent you shared your secrets with this sister only to discover that she betrayed your trust and told your deepest thoughts and feelings to your narcissistic mother.

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Do you favor one of your kids over the other?

You don’t have to favor one over the other or prefer to spend time with one more all the time. Kids feel the lack of love, and it damages their self-esteem. We are all going to screw up our kids in various ways.

What should I do if my sister spreads rumours about me?

If your sister spreads rumours about you within the family, just say simply, “That’s not true” and move on You can’t change anybody else but you can change your own reaction because that’s the only part of the equation any of us has control over.

How do you Save Your Sister at Christmas?

If necessary, make your own arrangements at Christmas or say, “Let me know when plans are finalised.” “If you carry on like this,” says Mooney, “you’re not going to save your sister. Your part in this is to keep the same consistent rules and thus change the family dynamic.

How do I deal with my feelings of inadequacy towards my sister?

The way to handle your feelings of inadequacy when you are with her is to handle them when you are not with her. Get to know these feelings of inadequacy better. They may arise from your relationship with your sister but they are yours. Many people have these sibling relationships.

Do I need attention from my sister?

Sit with the hunger and let it gnaw and scream and cry until it settles down, or until it gets what it needs from you. But that’s OK. This thing you think you need — this attention from someone, this respect, this whatever it is that you want so much from your sister — you don’t really need it. You’re just in the habit of thinking you need it.

How do I deal with my sister’s power play?

Your early sense of inferiority and victimisation, partly (but certainly not exclusively) informed by your sister’s power play has continued way too long. You need to learn to extract yourself and build resilience, so your sister takes her sporting tendencies elsewhere.