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Can you grieve the loss of something you never had?
Grief is associated with death but can also indicate a broader range of losses. The loss of something you never had, for example, is often the least validated of all types. People frequently fail to acknowledge this kind of grief in others.
Does delayed grief exist?
Delayed grief is just that: grief that you don’t fully experience until quite a while after your loss. Those who feel a delayed grief reaction often describe it as a devastating sadness that hits them out of the blue. It might arrive a few weeks or months after the funeral, or sometimes even years later.
What is it called to miss something you never had?
If I miss something from the past that could never exist again, it’s saudade. A yearning for something illusionary that may never materialize is saudade. So yes, it is possible to miss something you’ve never had. Just, saudade.
Do people continue to grieve for the person they lost?
In certain instances, but more often, we find that bereaved individuals will continue to revisit their grief and their feelings about the absent or deceased person throughout their lifetime. Yes, this is true even if they didn’t know the person at all or well. Consider a son whose father died before he was born.
Do you ever get over the pain of loss?
No. It’s because you never get over loss. As time passes, the intensity of feelings about the loss will lessen; you might also find ways to soothe or distract yourself, or you can partially bury grief-related feelings by creating new memories. But you’re not going to get over it because that’s…
What happens to your mind when someone you hardly know dies?
Coulda’s, Woulda’s, Shoulda’s: When someone you hardly knew dies, your grief may manifest around different types of thoughts, emotions, and secondary losses than it would if you had known the person well. For instance, your grief may focus more on abstract losses, like what could have been or should have been, than tangible losses.
What are emotions that have to do with loss?
Emotions that have to do with loss are triggered throughout our lives. Usually, they are in the form of anniversary reactions, such as the birthday or death day of the lost loved one, or any significant holiday in which you might want to be with the person who is gone.