Why do I always think about what others think of me?
We care so much about others because our happiness depends on the quality of our relationships. We want to be in their good books so that we can develop and nurture our relationships with them. Our worrying about what others think of us stems from the fear that we may be bereft of friends or intimacy.
How do you trust yourself and not care what others think?
Here are some tips for trusting yourself:
- Become more accepting of who you are. People who accept themselves are better at brushing off disapproval from others.
- Increase your self-esteem.
- Love yourself more.
- Be your own biggest fan, instead of your biggest critic.
How do you let go of what other people think of You?
You must make a conscious effort to let go what other people think. It’s a skill that needs to be practiced, like meditating. But once you truly understand how to let go, you will see the world as entirely different. People will love you, people will hate you, and none of it will have anything to do with you.
Is it selfish to do things for others?
As strange as it sounds, doing things for others can be selfish. On an airplane, they say to put the oxygen mask on yourself before putting it on a child. This is because if the adult passes out trying to help the child, both are in trouble.
How can I stop being bored by what others think of Me?
The third thing you could do to stop being bothered by what others think of you: Develop attentional control. Sometimes, you may realize that others’ negative judgments of you are justified: you simply screwed up. But that doesn’t mean that you have to wallow in embarrassment and shame forever.
What does it mean to be true to your whole self?
This being true to your whole self — this individuation — isn’t easy. It takes courage and perseverance, but in the long run it feels better. And for many people, bringing their unique offerings to the world is what gives their life meaning. This post was published on the now-closed HuffPost Contributor platform.